The Conscious Perimenopause Blog

Where We Talk About Going 'through it' With Eyes and Heart Wide Open

First things First. You are Welcome Here. You Are Not Crazy. You Are Not Broken. And You Are Not Alone.

If you’ve found yourself staring at the ceiling at 3a.m., exhausted but wired…If you’ve walked into a room and forgotten why…If your body aches, your patience is thinner, and your confidence feels shaky…

If your personal and professional relationships are suffering…

And yet your doctor tells you, “Your labs are normal. This is just part of aging.”

Then this post is for YOU.

Because what you’re feeling is real. And you deserve more than confusion and dismissal from health care providers and systems that are supposed to help you feel better.

As a former Bone Marrow Transplant RN, I was trained to advocate for patients and their families who were navigating complex life-altering health challenges — but nothing prepared me for how difficult it would be to advocate for myself during perimenopause.

Today, I want to share why I created the support I wish I had during my own perimenopause journey — and how it’s now helping women in midlife feel like themselves again.

The Women I Serve (Maybe It’s You)

I work with women in midlife who are going through perimenopause and feel dismissed by the healthcare system… isolated in their experience… and longing to feel like themselves again.

Some are afraid to go to the doctor at all. They push through chronic fatigue, joint and muscle pain, anxiety, and brain fog. They tell themselves that they should be grateful. They have beautiful families, careers and responsibilities. So why do they feel like they’re falling apart?

Others have done everything “right.” They’ve gone from doctor to doctor. They’ve been told their labs are normal. They’ve been told this is just part of aging. And they leave those appointments feeling discouraged, angry, confused, and scared.

They wake up tired before the day even starts. They’re exhausted during the day… yet wired at night. They struggle to concentrate on conversations they once enjoyed. They unintentionally miss appointments or important meetings and feel embarrassed for not 'having it together'. They wonder if others notice that they’re not quite “themselves". "Some even quietly fear, “Is this the beginning of dementia?”

They stop enjoying grocery shopping, carpool, their loved social events. They feel too anxious to show up at work. Physical intimacy changes. Emotional connections fade.

And underneath it all is a quiet and aching question:

“Is this just how my life is going to be from now on?”

Why This Work Is So Personal For Me

Before I was a Women’s Menopause Health Coach, I was a Bone Marrow Transplant RN. I am also a wife, mother, sister, friend, daughter — and a perimenopause survivor!

I went through a horrific perimenopause transition myself.

I lost so many irreplicable years of my life not feeling like myself, existing in a fog of chronic pain, anxious thoughts, exhaustion and as you might imagine — felt hopeless. My marriage suffered. I wasn’t emotionally or physically present with my spouse or children the way I wanted to be. And I remember thinking:

“Is this forever?” and “who will take care of my family if I can’t?”

I also remember how hard it was for me to admit I needed help.  As a nurse, a spouse, a mother, a PTSA volunteer I had been known as and self-identified as ‘the helper’ for years.  But what I realized later about normalizing asking for help and prioritizing my own needs, was how good it truly felt to receive help AND feel less isolated. By opening up and asking people to help me, I was able to give myself the space, self-compassion and PERMISSION that I desperately needed to heal.  In doing so, I changed my old narrative from “I am a helper” to "I can help others AND it is both ok and necessary to ask for and receive help, too.” 

One of my most grateful outcomes from learning to ask and receive help ~ a stranger at the time, handed me an essential oil bottle during a moment of panic at the co-op we were both volunteer teaching at and she quickly became (and is still to this day) a very close friend of mine. Those vulnerable and painful moments in my life that brought me to my knees also allowed opportunities for new and authentic relationships to be cultivated. I just had to work through my fear and shame to ask for it.

I was also one of many middle-aged women to be tossed around the healthcare system for years before I found the right providers to help me. From that experience, I know what it’s like to feel scared, isolated, and dismissed. I know what it’s like to feel like you’re losing yourself — and no one can explain why.

And I also know what it feels like to finally find answers.

The Moment Everything Shifted

My turning point wasn’t just about me.

It was also about my daughters.

I remember thinking: I do not want them to suffer like this. I do not want them to stay quiet about their symptoms. I do not want them to feel pressure to keep powering through. And I sure do not want them to lose years of their lives waiting for someone to listen like I did.

I wanted to help put an end to the stigma that has been passed down through generations — the silence around menopause. The outdated and infuriating idea that women are supposed to endure it quietly.

Through my own experience and having the privilege of hearing stories of others through my work and social circles have helped me recognize firsthand how perimenopause isn’t just physiological. It’s cognitive. Emotional. Relational. It touches every part of a woman’s life.

And women deserve support for all of it.

That’s when I knew: I had to create something different.

What Makes This Support Different

My work isn’t about pushing harder. It's not about restricting or counting calories.

In fact, many women come to me thinking they need to exercise more, push through joint and muscle pain, restrict food, or “be stronger.”

When often what their body is actually asking for… is gentleness.

In our work together, we:

• Take a conscious look at your whole life picture

• Decide what needs attention first

• Support your nervous system

• Add nourishing practices instead of constantly taking things away

• Focus on building energy, not draining it further

  
  

Many clients are surprised to discover that adding specific foods (instead of restricting more) improves energy, focus, and sleep and that calming the nervous system reduces pain and anxiety. That they may be able to stop taking expensive medications and being tossed from doctor to doctor. That small changes can and do create BIG impact.

How I Support You

I currently offer:

1:1 Private Coaching

Personalized telehealth sessions tailored to your specific experience; Not a one-size-fits-all plan. You receive support between sessions whether it’s a quick question, needing help working through challenges (because life can throw us curveballs anytime) or celebrating the good stuff — your successes!  No waiting for weeks on end to get what you need here.

All sessions are offered via telehealth (Zoom or telephone) to support accessibility. You can meet with me from the comfort of your couch, your car, your office, or on a walk. I know what it’s like to be unable to leave the house and show up to an in-person appointment due to feeling out of energy from chronic pain and anxiety or the temptation to cancel because you're swamped at work and can't step away. Accessibility matters deeply to me.

Weekly Perimenopause Roundtable (coming soon!)

A space where you realize you are not the only one. Where symptoms are normalized, not dismissed. Where conversations are honest and compassionate and real.

What former clients have had to say about the support they received

The feedback and comeback stories I get to hear from clients experiencing deeper understanding of themselves and their experience gives great purpose and meaning to my work. When women can begin to identify and communicate their own needs and ask for help, we know our work together is making a difference.  To top it off, I know from both experience and feedback from clients that their healing has a positive and powerful ripple effect on their families and in their communities. And in my mind, that means everyone wins.

As one client shared:

“With her kindness and compassionate listening, positivity and acceptance of me for who I am, I felt heard and understood.” – Alanna T.

Another said:

“Karen has such great techniques to hone in on the small changes that can make a big impact.” – M.B.A.

And this:

“Her gentle questioning allows me to navigate towards my own wisdom.” – Michelle P.

And one of my favorites:

“Karen’s approach goes beyond mere goal setting; it's like having a supportive friend guiding you through life's challenges… offering practical strategies and emotional support.” – Alina

And that’s exactly what I aim to provide.

What Becomes Possible

When women feel seen and validated, everything begins to shift.

They feel:

• More confident and less ashamed

• Less confused and more in control

• More energized during the day

• Able to sleep at night

• Less afraid something is “seriously wrong”

• More emotionally connected to themselves and their loved ones

Self-confidence returns. Relationships improve. Even joy comes back.

They begin to recognize themselves again.

The Future I See

I envision a world where women’s midlife health is not dismissed.

Where healthcare providers collaborate more and think "this could be perimenopause!" when all labs look normal. Where online access removes barriers for rural women or those who cannot take time off work. Where more women can speak openly about brain fog, anxiety, joint pain, libido changes, and emotional shifts without shame and embarrassment.

The more we normalize these conversations, the less isolated women will feel.

And I am wholeheartedly committed to being part of that change.

If ANY of This Sounds Like You…

Two of the biggest mistakes I personally made were waiting too long to ask for help and then taking my primary care provider’s initial word that I was likely just “worn out” and to get better sleep.

In doing so, I lost irreplaceable years of my life. And the people I loved most felt it too.

I don’t want that for you.

If any of this feels familiar…If you’re ready to work with someone who truly understands…If you’re ready to feel like yourself again…

My door is open.

You can schedule your first FREE visit right here.

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And please know this:

You are not broken.

You are not imagining this.

And you do not have to go through it alone. 💛